The following is a list of life hacks and helpful tools we mention on the show. Some are practical “tricks of the trade” we use to help in our daily life; others are legit sources that can help with the yucks of life; and some good ol’ Psych ED articles (which can also be super validating) and are research-based. However, we highly recommend getting professional help if life gets to be too much.

“Asking for help is not giving up. It’s refusing to give up.”

-Charlie Mackesy’s “The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse”

It’s okay not to be okay.

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Episode 59

“Grit & Glamour: Fighting an Invisible Illness with Candi Shamblin Arthur” 

Have you ever met someone whose resilience in the face of adversity not only defines them but also uplifts those around them? Meet Candi—a beacon of strength, grace, and determination, balancing being a mom, and active community-volunteer, with the reality of battling five autoimmune disorders. Our latest episode introduces you to this remarkable individual, whose story will grip your heart and inspire your spirit. Candi reveals how pageantry became her refuge, a place where camaraderie triumphs and women empower one another amidst life’s relentless demands. Her candid reflection on living with conditions like Crohn’s Disease and Fibromyalgia is a vivid illustration of the grit required to face invisible battles while maintaining a semblance of normalcy.e   

Want to know more about Crohn’s Disease? 

Episode 58

“Breaking the Silence: Confronting the Shadows of Suicide” 

The silent battles with mental health are often coaked in the shadows of stigma and can lead to the most tragic event of all: suicide. This episode takes a heartfelt look at this issue through a moving memorial service for a woman who lost her fight. This is a difficult topic. But if we want to change the stigma surrounding one of the leading causes of death in the United States, we have to start to become comfortable with the uncomfortable.  We need to move towards greater empathy and understanding.  Our show is a call to action for more open conversations about mental health urging a collective approach to foster a more empathetic society in which no one suffers in silence. Help is available. Text or call 988. There is hope. There are people who care. There are other options.  

Click here for help… 988 is the number to text or call. 

Episode 57

“Tough Decisions” 

It’s decision time… whatever the decision is, what is your response or reaction… Do you listen to anxiety, what’s “safe or familiar” or do you see the decision as an opportunity… as a gift? Coming to this crossroad happens… now what? We believe you’ve got this…


Episode 56

“God Winks” 

Coincidence or something bigger than this world? The Universe? God? Whatever you choose to call “IT”, have you experienced a wink from your higher power? You may pass it off as a coincidence, but oftentimes these are signs pointing us in the right direction and/or messages from loved ones. Take some time to sit and observe. Just sit and look. You might be surprised by what you see! 


Episode 55

“86 People Pleasing” 

In this week’s LYLAS episode,, we explore the people-pleaser mentality, setting personal boundaries and the journey towards inner fulfillment. We share stories from our family trip that highlight the delicate work-life balance and the pressure to meet external expectations. We’ll discuss the importance of avoiding judgment and taking responsibility for our own happiness and the pitfalls of tying our self-worth to others’ approval. We’ll share insights into recognizing the sources of our own joy and cherishing life’s simple pleasures. Through our experiences, we’ll show you how we’re prioritizing our happiness by nurturing those relationships that deposit into our emotional banks.


Episode 55

“86 People Pleasing” 

In this week’s LYLAS episode,, we explore the people-pleaser mentality, setting personal boundaries and the journey towards inner fulfillment. We share stories from our family trip that highlight the delicate work-life balance and the pressure to meet external expectations. We’ll discuss the importance of avoiding judgment and taking responsibility for our own happiness and the pitfalls of tying our self-worth to others’ approval. We’ll share insights into recognizing the sources of our own joy and cherishing life’s simple pleasures. Through our experiences, we’ll show you how we’re prioritizing our happiness by nurturing those relationships that deposit into our emotional banks.


Episode 55

“86 People Pleasing” 

In this week’s LYLAS episode,, we explore the people-pleaser mentality, setting personal boundaries and the journey towards inner fulfillment. We share stories from our family trip that highlight the delicate work-life balance and the pressure to meet external expectations. We’ll discuss the importance of avoiding judgment and taking responsibility for our own happiness and the pitfalls of tying our self-worth to others’ approval. We’ll share insights into recognizing the sources of our own joy and cherishing life’s simple pleasures. Through our experiences, we’ll show you how we’re prioritizing our happiness by nurturing those relationships that deposit into our emotional banks.


Episode 54

“Don’t Give Your Power Away!” 

Have you ever caught yourself pouring all of your energy into a bottomless pit, or letting someone else dictate your mood and self-worth? Our latest chat goes back to the basics, matching the raw and authentic nature of our discussion on emotional power and control. We open up about the pitfalls of misdirected emotional investments and share actionable advice to reclaim your power and control.  By conceptualizing our energy as a bank, we discuss the importance of investing in reciprocal relationships and the empowerment that comes from resilience. 

Episode 53

“Be the Energy You Wish to See in the World” 

What’s that law “Energy is neither created nor destroyed. When people use energy, it doesn’t disappear. Energy changes from one form of energy into another form of energy.” The energy we bring to a room affects ourselves, the people/animals around us, and oftentimes the outcome of a situation. This week we do a deep dive into energy discussing how we notice our energy, what practices influence our energy, and how we often match the energy of those around us. Our energy is the essence of who we are and how we show up in the world. Energy is contagious– good or bad, so let’s be aware of our energy, the energy of others and how we can use our energy to achieve our greatest desires. 

Episode 52

“Circle Back to Meditation” 

In this episode we circle back to meditation and discuss how our practice(s) have changed in the past year. We go in depth on how and why we started to meditate. Every day this is more empirical support for why we should be integrating meditation in our daily wellness routine. People often say they’ve tried to meditate but just couldn’t do it.  Bottom line, if you can breathe, you can meditate! It really is that simple!  Press play to learn our tips and tricks for how to start a meditation practice and remember the goal of meditation is not to clear your thoughts; rather learn how to notice your thoughts as they pass and return to your focus to your breath. Don’t be intimidated….be CURIOUS! 

Episode 51

“Manifesting the Black Panther: Our Chopra Retreat Experience” 

For the first time in over 25 years your LYLAS girls went on a retreat! This time a health and wellness retreat focused on diving deep into self understanding and reflection via “Chopra Health Retreat: Ayurvedic Lifestyle Program.”  We meditated twice daily, exercised, attended learning sessions, had incredible spa services, drank the fiber drinks, and digested the detox pills. It was a journey in those short 5 days. We learned so much about ourselves and made new friends along the way. We also got a little rowdy at the end because, you can take the girls out of West Virginia but you can’t take the WV out of us LYLAS girls! Listen in for our takeaways on how we are improving our own selfcare, new discoveries, strengths, and of course, what we plan to work on moving forward!

Curious? What to go on your own Chopra retreat? Click on the link for more! #chopraretreat @ChopraRetreat

Episode 50

“Nifty Fifty” 

Counting your achievements and recognizing areas of growth are daily practices– not perfected skills.  Our chat today recognizes how far we have come, what we are proud of, and what we are still working on as part of our “little podcast that could.” Huge thanks to all of you for being with us all along the way! Cheers to the next 50!!!

Episode 49

“Loss & Opportunity: Honoring the Grief of a Friend” 

Recent life experiences and requests from listeners have converged again for this hopeful discussion on coping with the death of a friend.  Grief is a colorful beast. Choosing to see the “silver linings” and how everything life experience can co-exist can help… listen in for more…

Episode 48

“Happiness is NOT the Destination” 

Don’t let yourself get caught in the “happiness trap!” Expecting an event or achieving a goal to make you happy might make you feel the opposite. Learning to find joy in life’s valleys requires us to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. In this episode, we talk about life’s peaks and valleys and how you find happiness wherever you are.  You are the creator of your own life. Take ownership of your happiness!

Episode 47

“Rekindingly ze Romance” 

The person we will spend the most time in our life with is our partner. I guess, technically speaking we spend the most time with ourselves, but after that, it’s your spouse/partner/significant other. We need to nurture those relationships and DO THE WORK just like in everything else we do that’s a priority. In this episode, Sarah and Jen talk about how to rekindle the romance when you feel disconnected from your significant other. Shout out to Angie Via-Hairston for this fun topic!! Thank you so much for your support!!

Want more on how to restart the romantic fire? Check out this article from @PsychologyToday!

Episode 46

“Sharing the Mental Load” 

The mental load is the invisible weight we carry around. It can negatively affect our mental health and serve as friction points in our relationship. But how do you share a weight no one wants to carry?! Validation–the struggle is real– and some pointers ARE shared here 😀!

Want some additional help on starting this conversation? Clic here for this great resource! 

Episode 45

“Loving Someone with a Mental Health Condition” 

Listener suggested, and we answered!  Loving someone who is struggling with mental health issues is no picnic. You can support your loved one AND not agree with their behavior. You can love someone and their mental illness just as we love people with health-related illnesses; with compassion. In this episode, Sarah and Jen provide tips on how you can support a loved one with mental health disorders.

Disclosure: Great article from NAMI, but not a fan of the term “illness.” Aside from that, this source does provide a solid road map of support. #NAMI 

Episode 44

Hell Yes and Hell Nos in 2024”  “New Year, new you?

How about New Year, Better Me! Maybe we reaffirm our guidelines to live more authentically, creating the life we desire! We share our ins and outs for this new year and much more!

Follow our social media pages and our “Videos” section of our website to see what we are saying “Hell Yes and Hell No” to! 

Episode 43

Can’t I Just Call You an Asshole and Be Done with It?” Gaslighting and Narcissism.

 Offff…  Seems we can’t get away from these two terms and our use of them may be doing more to stigmatize mental health, than help.  Also, what do we do if we find ourselves questioning if we are in a relationship where we feel we are “being gaslighted?” Bottom line, if you are thinking you are experiencing someone displaying these behaviors… GET OUT!

@PsychologyToday is a great resource for information and provides a directory of mental health professionals in your area. Remember, help is available 🙂 #psychologytoday

Episode 42

Fork in the Road.”  Finding yourself at the metaphorical “Fork in the Road.

Finding yourself at the metaphorical “fork in the road” is inevitable! Self-doubt, worry, imposter syndrome… all the yucks could potentially stand in your way and block you from incredible growth opportunities! In this episode, we cover how you’ll know you’re making the right decision and how to support yourself during times of change and growth!

Once again, here’s @PsychologyToday with a great article on making difficult decisions. #psychologytoday

Episode 41

‘Tis the Season to be Merry: Finding Joy amid Loss & Smiles in Sadness.

In our Season 3 opener, we are honoring the requests of our listeners by hitting the holiday blues, how to cope with the loss of loved ones over the holidays, what exactly is SAD and how it differs from “the blues?

Learn more about SAD from the #NIMH!

Episode 40

“Diet Schmiet” with Special Guest, Meredith Wellman, MS,RD,LD

We round out season 2 by circling back to the topic that always influences our mental wellness —- diet culture. This week we welcome to the podcast special guest and registered dietitian, Meredith Wellman of Simply Wellman, to answer all our burning questions related to mid-life dieting and those popular wellness programs on the market. #healthyeating #momlife #balance

Meredith makes eating healthily easy and affordable, especially for busy moms! Follow her tips here! 

Episode 39

“I’m Rich, B*tch”

Inspired by an unexpected turn of events  and the Netflix series “How to Get Rich” by Ramit Sethi, Jen and Sarah discuss their definitions of living richly and how this perspective alleviates “keeping up with the Joneses!” This week we break down what it means to live rich on any budget and how YOU get to design your rich life!

Learn more about topics from this episode!

Episode 38

“Handling the Holiday Stress”

Sure most people believe the holidays to be a memorable time of the year, but also debatably the MOST stressful!!! The family member that drives you nuts, the easy-to-consume alcohol at every party, or the change in routines; our healthy lifestyles are often derailed. This episode will not only validate those situations but also provide Sarah’s top tips for managing holiday stress!

Episode 37

“What’s the Plan? Sorting-Out Schooling”


To celebrate School Psychology Awareness Week, our resident school psychologist, Jen, provides 17 years of knowledge from working in the public school system! In this episode, we cover everything from a child needing “just a little bit of help” to 504 plans and IEPs. Jen breaks it all down, hoping to leave you a full understanding of the processes related to academic or social intervention, special education programming, or 504 accommodation plans; as well as what sets these processes apart, We all want our kids/ grandkids to succeed academically, some may just need a different path and plan! 

Learn more about topics from this episode!

Episode 36

“Messages from THE Hollywood Medium”

 👻 This week Jen shares her incredible reading with the Hollywood medium, Tyler Henry, and how this experience literally changed her life. Listen along as Jen details how she scored a reading with the most sought-after medium on the planet! Not only did she receive messages from her Dad, and grandparents, but a surprise guest came through that she least expected! This experience completely changed her perception of loss and provided such peace to her soul. If you’ve ever lost someone you loved dearly, this episode is most certainly for you!! 

Learn more about topics from this episode!

Episode 35

“Cycle Syncing”

Ever considered giving our female bodies exactly what it needs during each phase of our cycle? We hadn’t either until a few months ago when Jen became interested in this method. We’re by no means experts on this topic, but we’ve done a fair amount of research to get started and Jen has begun incorporating this method into her lifestyle. 

Simply put, cycle syncing is adjusting your nutrition, workouts, and lifestyle around the phases of your cycle (Health Life Balance LLC). Cycle syncing is great for any woman experiencing hormonal imbalance, fatigue, low libido, or those who simply want to level up their overall well-being! In this episode, we discuss what it is, how it’s used, and how it can help women level up in all aspects of life!  

Learn more about topics from this episode!

Episode 34

“The Quarterly Pulse”

In the spirit of doing our own “progress report,” as Jen said in “Motivation Station (Season 2, Episode 12), we decided to put what we preach into action! Goal setting and reflective, fair self-assessments are discussed with some tips and tricks shared along the way! Self-work is best done with a buddy who can hold you accountable as well as celebrate your successes!

Episode 33

“Chronic Happiness is Not the Goal”

We all want our kids to be happy, obviously,  but according to new research, our actions may be preventing them from experiencing needed distress to grow and learn how to cope. This week Sarah and Jen discuss this new research and our own experiences as moms and mental health professionals providing tips and lessons we’ve learned along the way. 

Let’s go! Listening to this episode is the first step! Now, let’s get to work!

Episode 32

Motivation Station

Motivation the struggle can be real some days! In this week’s episode we share our tricks to getting started, keeping our head in the game, and how truly knowing yourself is key to it all (setting effective goals and knowing when you’re getting in your own damn way).  Don’t sit on a park bench waiting for things to change or hunt for motivation like it’s an item on your scavenger hunt!  Don’t wake up 10 years from now wishing you had started sooner. JUST DO IT! 

Let’s go! Listening to this episode is the first step! Now, let’s get to work!

Episode 31

Love: Loss and Restarting, with Special Guest Candias Berry-Welch

 Imagine you wake up one day in your early 20’s, married with two small little girls, and you get a call notifying you that you’re now a widow with two small little girls. Where does one even begin? Candias Berry-Welch graciously shares her story of strength and true love.  She is the real deal.  This raw glimpse into her life and how she’s learned to cope offer hope and inspiration. 

Episode 30

Toxic Relationships: Know When to Go

Like it or lump it, we’ve all experienced a toxic relationship. Recognizing the signs can be tricky, particularly when it’s someone you love. Recognizing the global, harmful effects of toxic relationships is key when determining if something or someone is right for you.   This episode takes a deep dive into the differences between unhealthy and toxic relationships, the signs, and what you can do to heal and move on.

Being in a toxic relationship can really “make ya sick.” Here’s some additional tips on recognizing the signs and how to cope.

Episode 29

 Living with Adult ADHD

You’ve heard us mention some of our personal experiences as adults living with ADHD. In this episode, we dive deep into what it was like as kids, our coping strategies then and now; and how we became successful adults despite our neurodivergent brains. If this episode resonates with you, be sure to seek support from a trained professional. Don’t let the World Wide Web diagnose you or dictate your treatment plan.  

Love this link! Easy to follow and is reflective of what Sarah & Jen discussed in this episode.

Episode 28

Back to School: Transition Tips

Back to school brings loads of feelings. Joy for some, apprehension for others.  On the heels of all the summer fun and lapse in schedules/routines, it can be emotionally tough to adjust! Kids meeting new friends, transitioning to different schools, maybe even college… but for parents, this process can also be a bit rough (think first day of kindergarten, last day of high school, college move-in day).  So how do we all get through these times and best prepare ourselves and our children? We’ve got you covered in this week’s episode!

Episode 27


With each birthday, new year, or time of transition, it can bring some feelings to sort through. This year Jen decided that she was going to embrace the concept of leveling up!  To us leveling up means continued growth and development! In the game of life, we’re not getting older, we’re leveling up and taking our wisdom with us!  

Learn about leveling up!

Episode 26

Meditation & Mindfulness

Yes, “meditation and mindfulness” seem to be the latest buzz words, BUT they have been around as practices for over 2,000 years! Why? Because they work!! In this episode, Jen shares how meditation has helped her escape the ferris wheel of hell and helped her become less reactive to life’s daily frustrations.  Sarah shares how her mindfulness practice helps her ground when she’s feeling out of sorts.  While these tools may seem intimidating at first, you may find that you are already doing them to some degree!

This is a great start if you are interested in learning more about meditation and mindfulness! Suggestions for starting your own practice are also included!

Episode 25

Let’s Talk Bout Sex!

Sex! Yep. We went there… how to talk about sex with your kids and what’s normative for you and your partner? Our special guest, Michelle Leach, Professional Counselor Associate, MEd, MS, LPCA (specializing in sex therapy) covers it all and provides a ton of helpful tips for communication and how to seek support should you need to. 

Wanna learn more about our special guest?! Checkout Michelle’s professional page below!

Episode 24

Being a Mom…with a Disability, Special Guest Niki Stevens

Multiple Sclerosis, aka MS, is a progressive disease that disrupts communication between the brain and body.  Niki Stevens was a healthy, highly active student in college when she received this life altering diagnosis. Her story of perseverance, choosing to live life on her terms, and the struggles to fight “the darkness” are beautifully shared in this inspiring reflection of what it’s like to be a mom with a disability.

Although this resource is specific to West Virginia, it may provide information as to what’s available to those in need.

Episode 23

The Big D as in Divorce

Divorce is tough, but so is staying in an unhappy or unhealthy marriage.  If kids are involved, this can be complicated. In this episode, your two besties, both products of divorced parents, and Sarah, who’s been through a divorce herself, share their experiences and provide support for those who may find themselves in this situation.

If you happen to have young kiddos, remember to have developmentally appropriate conversations with them. These books may also be helpful.

Episode 22

The Trauma Talk

“The risk of exposure to trauma has been part of the human condition since we evolved as a species ( Matthew Friedman, MD, PhD, National Center for PTSD).”  Yep.  That’s a hard but honest way to start this discussion.  Just like with addiction, there is hope. This episode is heavy, hopefully validating, and informative.

This site is run by the Department of Veteran Affairs. It’s super comprehensive and helpful.

From first responders to natural disasters, this website has options for everyone.

Lastly, but maybe most helpful, the National Insitute of Mental Health.

Episode 21

Addiction, Recovery, and Tips for Supporting the Addict in your life. Featuring Special Guest Craig Hettinger of Huntington Addiction Wellness Center (HAWC)

Addiction knows no boundaries.  At some point in our lives every single person will love an addict or be one themselves.  We all know someone whose life has been disrupted or ended because of its deadly force.  This episode focuses on the hard truths of addiction. We talk about how it affects the addict, their family and friends, and the hopefulness that can come from recovery. There is truly no one better to break down addiction than our former classmate, Craig Hettlinger, owner of Huntington Addiction Wellness Center (HAWC).

 If you or someone you love is currently struggling to overcome addiction, check out the HAWC website for help.

Episode 20

 Bless Your Heart with Special Guest, Julie Thomm of the American Heart Association

Heart disease is the leading cause of death among women in the United States. Knowing the risk factors, signs/symptoms, and taking preventative action are all necessary to avoid becoming a statistic.  

The American Heart Association is the best place to go for all things heart related, including how to join our guest, JulieThomm, in advocating for healthier hearts in your community! 

Episode 19

Welcome to the Rabbit Hole: Cognitive & Behavioral Traps

Welcome to the rabbit hole! Our mind is truly powerful… especially when we treat thoughts and feelings as facts! THOUGHTS and FEELINGS are NOT facts!

Awareness of your cognitive and behavioral traps is key in starting to manage the cycle. The following resource may be helpful in highlighting your patterns, then changing them. This can be tough and might be best to work with a professional if you find it more challenging.

Episode 18

Women’s Health 101

Ladies! Mamas! Question for you, who’s taking care of you? Midlife brings so many new experiences to our mind and body. Given the mental load we carry as women, taking care of ourselves often takes the back burner. The old saying is true, “you can’t pour from an empty cup!” In this week’s episode we break down what our bodies are telling us and when it’s time to seek help. Mammograms, Paps, and Blood work; OH MY!  We chat about how to approach health topics with your health care providers and reiterate the importance of taking care of YOU first and foremost. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary!


Love this resource because it is comprehensive; covering teen mamas to grandmamas! Remember: these are general guidelines and do not replace you advocating for yourself and your healthcare needs.

A simple handout to remind you of the healthcare needs for us midlife mamas and women.

4 Tips for talking to your doctor.

Want a deeper dive? Yes, it’s the NIH, but it’s the NIH.  Not only does it discuss your run-of-the-mill medical appointment, but it also breaks the topic down into specialty areas, which is so helpful.

Episode 17

Spring Fever

Seasonal changes often trigger changes in our lives. Taking the time to reflect on this process and what our current needs are.  It’s a natural time to make plans, change goals, and celebrate your accomplishments! Even if you haven’t checked off all your goals, acknowledging the successes along the way helps keep us motivated to reach those big/scary goals!

Episode 16

Mama Tell Me ‘Bout The Good Ol’ Days

Reminiscing about the good ol ‘ days can be so much fun! Life is full of endless layers and being able to pull the onion back at times can really pull at all your heartstrings. This episode is a playful, yet thoughtful reminder of what it means to come home.

Episode 15

The Pulse

Living is a process, and self-reflection is a valuable tool for personal growth and overall health.  Doing this effectively is aided by taking a nonjudgmental stance toward yourself. Being accountable can be motivating. Holding yourself accountable and without judgment is an art.  In this episode, we take a look at our progress towards the personal goals we set for ourselves. Making changes is adaptive and healthy and may help you achieve that work-life balance so many of us are seeking.

Episode 14

I Need A Holiday

Summer is coming, but that also brings the possible stress of planning family vacations… Let’s begin by reframing our own expectations and challenging the “keeping up with the Joneses” thoughts.  Also, like nearly everything else, the first place to start is with you, your partner, and whoever else this may involve (kiddos, pets, friends, etc…).

Here are Sarah’s top  recommendations for planning travel:

What are the goals of the trip for you and anyone else involved?  To relax, explore a new place, “bucket list trip,” etc…

Climate considerations. What? Yes. It’s important to be aware of the role of a place’s climate and how it can affect your temperament.  Remember, you control your destination and season if you choose to go someplace.  Our family does not do well when traveling in extreme heat, so going to Disney in June … was a huge mistake. Now, we have adapted and tend to go places that serve to decrease emotional vulnerabilities triggered by climate.

Activities for the Ages.  When traveling with the kiddos, we try to balance the activities among the ages, which means the kids don’t always get what they want.  And that’s okay. 

Brainstorm places (without judgment and discounting more local feasible options, like state parks), duration options (several single-day trips instead of one big one), possible barriers (date conflicts) & backup plans, & needs (passport, visas, or planning ahead medically, for example).  

Be where you are. If you decide to go somewhere, be there. Try to allow other thoughts about stressors to stay back. For example, thinking about work while on a trip really defeats the purpose of going.

Episode 13

School’s OUT for SUMMER!

Whether you’re breathing a sigh of relief or feeling anxious about having kids home all summer, the end of the school year brings up all kinds of emotions for kids and adults. If you’re a fellow educator like Jen, you may be counting down the days left in the school year, but if your child is hitting a stride and you’re concerned they may fall behind; Jen provides some tips for navigating the school system’s resources and what parents can do to help their child! And also, what NOT to do!

The research on retention (i.e., being held back, retained in the same grade) is not favorable. What we do know is it simply does not have the impact adults believe it will, and it actually has negative long-term outcomes. This article linked provides an in-depth look at the research on retention. If your child has recently been recommended for retention and you disagree, this is a great article to bring when you meet with your child’s school to discuss options.

Episode 12

Aging Parents

Talk about transitions! At no point is it easy to have end-of-life decisions with someone, but this is one of those cases where “ripping off the Band-Aid,” may be the most helpful first step. Second, practicing good self-care. Other valuable tips include educating yourself on the needs of the situation and resources in your area.

This infographic is great for where to start when discussing your parents’ needs as they age. Having these hard conversations before they are absolutely necessary is key.

A great website for where to start when you’re faced with caregiving for a parent. 

This USA Today article is extremely validating for anyone going through this transition.

Lastly, The National Institue on Aging, can be very helpful for practitioners, but the tips shared here can be applicable for all.

Episode 11

Religious Mutts

 As George Michael (and Sarah) said, “You gotta have faith.”  Add that to the list of things that seemed easier in our youth! In this week’s episode, we talk religion, the good, the fun, and the yucks! Fun fact: Sarah and Jen’s friendship thrived through the church. As teens, they were extremely involved in youth groups. Their faith is probably what helped them survive their teen years! Now as mothers, Jen and Sarah reflect on how they are approaching religion with their kids and themselves. What if your spouse doesn’t have the same faith or specific religious practice? What if you feel like you haven’t found a place where you fit in or are completely aligned with a specific religion? We cover it all!

This link is a wonderful resource for how to talk spirituality with little kids particularly if you are a family that does not attend church regularly.

Episode 10

Rituals and Routines

Humans thrive in routine. Rituals, daily habits, routines–whatever you want to call them, are essential to everyday functioning and mental wellness. These practices are what bring us back to ourselves and make life predictable. Predictability reduces anxiety. It’s that simple. Kids and adults alike benefit from routines/rituals. In this episode, Jen and Sarah break down their non-negotiable daily routines and habits that help manage their mental wellness.

 Inspired by the book Atomic Habits by James Clear and a podcast she was listening to, Jen developed these 5 daily habits that she believed would help her to show up each day as her best self.  When choosing your routine/self-care ritual, choose some behaviors you already do each day in addition to behaviors you want to improve or initiate. This will help build success when implementing a new routine.

Jen’s Daily 5:

Hydration– Athletic Greens (AG1), hot H20 w/lemon, then coffee first thing in the morning

Meditation-20 minutes of guided mediation using the Melissa Wood Health app

Movement– move my body in a way that feels good (pilates, circuit, run, etc.)

Gua sha & Gratitude– Gratitude while gua shaing my face/body

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Episode 9

To Botox Or Not To Botox

Whether you have or haven’t, you’ve thought about it. Botox is everywhere and so much more accessible in this day and age. We mid-life mamas are the prime target, and if you haven’t had it, you probably feel as though you are one of the last who hasn’t. Whether you have or you haven’t, we hope that YOU think you’re beautiful and KNOW that “YOU  are entirely up to YOU” (to quote the great Melissa Wood Tepperberg).

This article was shared on social media recently by a friend from high school (GO KNIGHTS!) We had just talked about our views on aging and felt validated that so many other mamas like us feel the same way. 

Episode 8

Diet Culture

Diet culture has been a big part of our lives for so many of us mid-life mamas. Like it or lump it, it’s been in our faces since we were old enough to read. Low fat, Low carb, No carb, Vegan, Carb cycling, Intermittent fasting, Keto, Whole30, Plant-based, I mean, what haven’t we been exposed to?! We grew up watching MTV Spring Break with rock-hard bodies, 90’s pencil-thin model standard, and if you’re like Jen, a step-parent obsessed with dieting and weight loss. It’s really no wonder so many women from our generation have experience with disordered eating. What’s inspiring about women of our generation is our willingness to try something different for our girls. To show them body positivity, inclusivity, and that a healthy, strong body looks different on every BODY. 

Tips from the Show:

  1. Watch your words! The words you use (to yourself in your head, as thoughts) and speak that your kids hear all directly impact our actions (behavior) and feelings.
  2. The goal is to leave a meal feeling energized, not full. Food is fuel, and having that mindset can help resist non-nutritious foods.
  3. Food is fuel, not a reward (i.e., “I’ve been good, I can have a cupcake”) or punishment (“I’ve been bad, I have to eat a salad for dinner).”
  4. Eat a rainbow!
  5.  As a clinical & health psychologist, Sarah (aka Dr. Stevens), recommends reviewing the resources provided here!

Episode 7

Friendships In Your Thir-Fourties

It turns out mama was right. Again. Friendships change over time; some evolve, while others run their course. We can all agree that the sign of a true friendship is the ability to pick right up where you’ve left off, whether it’s been a week, month, or year(s). We can also agree that when friendships end, it can be one of the most challenging transitions we experience in adult life. Quality friendships are vital for good mental health; it’s that simple.  Research shows that having solid relationships aside from your spouse significantly impacts your mental health. While it may seem tricky at first, making new friends in your 30s and 40s, you are at a slight advantage because, at this point in life, you know what activities bring you joy! As discussed in the podcast, it is the best way to make new friends! 

“It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday…” now that one is ringing in your ears! But it’s true, especially when it’s a close friend.  Jen described this transition beautifully.  This essay reflects on the ending of a friendship and how moving forward can take time.

This article really spoke to me and validated so much of how I (Sarah) feel and see friendships. My favorite advice, which I also practice, is to make yourself a “regular” somewhere doing something you enjoy. This will break down the common interest barrier and help to build a good start to new relationships.  After all, relationships were formed from proximity in the first place!

Episode 6

Step Mummy

It is a gift to serve as an additional parent in a child’s life and a challenge… keeping it authentic here, lol! If you have some tips or shared experiences, help a sister by contacting us on our webpage!

We love the full-on coverage of this article… it hits on the different developmental stages of the child, relationships, coping, allllllll the things!

Episode 5

Parental Loss

The loss of a parent is life-changing. It’s the club no one wants to be a part of. You can’t know the devastation and difficulty until you’ve experienced it. Here are some resources that may support your grief journey. 

Lots of graphics on this page, but the content is on-point and mirrors the experiences and coping strategies discussed on the show.

In alignment with the expansiveness of this topic, here is a comprehensive review.

Episode 4

Imposter Syndrome

“Imposter Syndrome…” Who doesn’t feel this way at some point? And “isn’t it ironic” (cue Alanis Morissette, lol) that this term was first coined in the ’70s amongst high-achieving women?! Don’t worry; it’s not a diagnosis but it IS a yucky feeling filled with false statements we tell ourselves. No worries though! Below are some tips to help you remove that imposter mask! Most importantly, remember, “You got this!”

This is a great, quick, and helpful read on “Imposter Syndrome” and offers practical tips to “take off the mask.”

If you really want to “geek out” on this topic, here is a relatively short, more research-heavy read on “Imposter Syndrome.” Most importantly, your feelings are valid; but your thoughts may not be.

Episode 3

Not All Who Wander Are Lost

Type 1 Diabetes is an autoimmune disease. There is no cure. Without insulin, we die. It’s that simple; however, managing the disease is uber complicated. Educating yourself on the signs and symptoms can be lifesaving for you or a loved one… Having a chronic condition does not define you. Sarah is the epitome of that statement.

JDRF has the best comprehensive resources on this condition… for the T1D, their parent, grandparent, school, support system, literally everything. 

Episodes 2 & 3

The Somethings Exercise

As you heard on the show, “The Somethings” are fun ways to stay reflective and positive, give some self-affirmations, promote interests/ curiosity, and stay on track with goals. Doing practices like this can serve as grounding when things get tough, and you need a boost, ways to push motivation, and keep that inner cheerleader voice going loud and strong!

If you liked this and tried it, share your “something’s with us!” by visiting our contact us page or comment on social media @thelylaspodcast!

The Somethings:

· Something I did last week that I am proud of…
· Something I am still growing in…
· Something I’m interested in… (cool news topic / learning point) …
· Something I loved and wanna support…
· Something I am looking forward to…

Episode 2

Ferris Wheel of Hell

Let’s say it… panic attacks suck. Jen’s heartfelt experience with this highlights they can happen to anyone, the internal struggle is REAL, and there are helpful tools to assist, including getting professional help. Below are a few resources on what panic attacks are and tools you can use to get off the Ferris wheel of hell.

This first is the traditional psych ed resource, a good overview of panic attacks

This one is great for grounding in the moment. It’s from an empirically supported model of care and these skills are excellent for panic. 

Welcome to Canada! Ok, not really, but in opening this link you will notice it is from the Canadian government. Here is why… the US does a great job of talking about “what’s up” not necessarily “what to do,” from a self-help perspective. Check this out:

Jen also mentioned basic grounding.  This can be a great tool to use when you think you may have a panic attack coming on. Use your senses (all of them) to focus on what is currently around you. For example, name 5 things you see, hear, taste, smell or feel (tangible like clothing on legs, hard seat). This will serve as a reset for your nervous system and may prevent a full blown panic attack.  Sometimes, creating a self-soothe kit can be helpful and discrete.